A poem, by Gabe Clement:
Look! It’s the Invisible Man!
Can’t you see him?
With his dark brown coat
and long black hair.
Don’t look him in the eyes--
He has the creepiest stare.
If you give him a hug, he’ll give you a toy.
But you didn’t hear this from me,
‘Cause I’m the inaudible boy.
There is the slightest chance that med #2 may be having the most slight of positive effects. I feel rather glumly certain that med #1 has had no such benefit. (so do we keep buying it at ridiculous name-brand drug expense? Why?) But as for #2...could it be responsible for the reduction in backyard flotsam...the steady progress on door refinishing...the near-completion of a chapter book (ok...Robert B. Parker, but what the heck.)?
How does one even know? What if it is helping? Of course I am glad if it is. Of course I must be glad if it is. Of course I want to see the best things I can see. Of course. It is best to smile and ignore the second little voice screaming from the back of my brain “Why don’t you just kill me now and get it over with?? What? You think I want to go through this again?
Of course we will ignore that little voice. And of course, we know that any benefit derived from med #2 will be temporary, and will not change the timing or the direction of the eventual trajectory. But of course--if one more Spenser book can be read...if one more decent conversation can be had--who would turn that down? And we can ignore the little screaming voice. Or at least pat it, and say “there there,” as it shrieks “you’re teasing me! Don’t give me a warm fuzzy if you’re not going to let me keep it!”
Once, when I was 15, I had a ring. (I was not a cute and nubile sort of 15. I was more of the gangly and awkward type of 15. The picture of the aphorism: It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.) I don’t remember where I got the ring. It was sterling silver, and basically a continuous strand, the diameter of string, which looped into a pretzel shaped knot. That was its decoration. I liked it.
One day--a nice day I think--I was sitting in the front yard with Duane. Duane was our exchange student from South Africa. Duane did not worry about being thought a fool. She was not. She was 2.5 years older, and several decades more mature, than I. We were sitting in the front yard, and Jeff came over from across the street. He was 29. I knew him as one of Corky’s older brothers whom I didn’t know other than to know him as one of Corky’s older brothers. But he was in our front yard to meet Duane. They chatted. I remained silent, as was the wisest move in my view, and stayed at a safe 10 or so feet away in the grass. I was playing with my ring. Fiddling with it. Taking it on and off. Duane was sitting in the grass, and Jeff was standing, in a spread-leg posture so that he would be lower to the ground, talking with her. I kept playing with my ring. I dropped it.
Then, I couldn’t find my ring. I was looking for it, but most discreetly, because the last thing I wanted to do was draw attention to the fact that I’d lost something. Because then I might have to talk. Well, Jeff was still standing there, spread-legs, and without a word he flung something at me. My ring. He was 10 feet away, and I’d merely dropped it.
For the past 2 years or so, when I’m in that weird state between awake and asleep, I am seized with the notion that someone/something is trying to take my rings. Not the silver knot ring. I don’t have that. It disappeared in the transitional college years. My current rings are my gold wedding ring which is too big, and my enagement ring which is not too big and holds the wedding band on. So, typically, I’m lying in bed not-quite-asleep and I feel a little panic. I can’t articulate who or what is trying to take my rings, but it’s something. Sometimes I take them off. Sometimes I put them on my bedside table, and occasionally I get up and carry them over to my earring box and put them in it. But I’m not quite awake. Just aware enough that, when I get up in the morning, I know what I did and can find the rings.
I don’t know why I do that. I don’t have any other freaky sleep, or almost-sleep, disorders. Maybe I just know something is taking something important away from me.
Our basement needs work. While I’ve attacked it in the past, even 5 years of clutter can seem impossible. Jeff has been working at getting some of his lumber flotsam up and out, but he tends to rummage in the non-lumber areas as well, and it is not uncommon for the basement to belch up several books, or another oddment which I’m just not ready to deal with yet.
Let’s leave that in the basement, I say. I’m just not ready to sort it yet. So back down it goes. Usually with me.
Today’s surprise basement burpage was a batch of semi-unrolled blueprint packets, strewn copiously across the kitchen counter. I recognized them. 228 Otterbein St--the first place we lived together.
Iiiiiigg I splutter, my clutter-aversion anxiety beginning to knot up my innards. What’s this doing here?
I did this, says Jeff, spreading out one of the rolls. I planned this, and drew it, and built it. Me and [cousin] Robin.
My knot unknots. My angst unangsts. I look at the drawing. A detailed rendering of a house--carefully measured, intricately marked, detailed features neatly sketched in. Look, Jeff says, I used to be able to do this stuff.
Yes, I say. You did do it. And it’s good. You pretty much designed and built the house we’re in right now too. Smile. Hug. The blueprints disappear later without my asking.
My right thumb is bundled up in a band-aid like a little peasant char-woman in winter. Constant wrappage seems the only way to convince the tiny crack--born of cold, dry air--that it is, in fact, appropriate to heal. It may be healing. But it resembles the fissure it was closely enough that I’m reluctant to unwrap it yet. 2 more days maybe.
Here is my goal and job for now. Preparing. One of the necessities being to create as manageable, unconfusing, and clutter free house as possible under the circumstances. I’m happy to get rid of stuff. Contact me if you want stuff. Personally, I don’t want stuff.
We’ve had an ongoing discussion about the lyrics to A Whole New World, from Aladdin. I was sure--really really sure--that Aladdin says “shining shimmering splendor.” It only makes sense, after all, to follow up two adjectives with a noun if you want a well-rounded phrase. But Olivia--who should know, as it is on her iPod--insisted that he says “shining, shimmering, splendid.” I had to look it up. It is “splendid.” As Gabe pointed out based on a lyrical analysis--”If it said ‘splendor’ instead of ‘splendid’ then you’d have to change the next line--’Tell me princess, now when did you last let your heart decide’ to ‘tell me princess now when/or did you let your heart decide.’ Makes no sense Mom, now does it?” The kid is correct. When you’re wrong, you’re wrong.
